I cringe whenever a new mother tells me that her baby’s birth was awful, but all that matters is that her baby is healthy and well.
I want to scream “NO! That’s not all that matters! YOU matter just as much!”
Somehow, society has decided that what happens during the birth is obsolete, and all that matters is a happy, healthy baby. Of course we all want a happy and healthy baby, no one is denying that or saying anything contrary to that. However, if things do not go as easily as you had hoped, that can be disappointing, upsetting, and downright traumatic. When someone tells you that its ok, the healthy baby is all that matters, they are minimizing the reality of what really happened.
Traumatic birth is a real thing. It happens a lot, way more than people think. It is talked about even less. Often the mothers I work with tell me they just want to forget what happened, put it behind them. Who can forget the birth of their baby? It’s a significant life altering event. Finding a way to process what happened is a meaningful and important part of recovery.
This week on the Badass Breastfeeding Podcast, Dianne and Abby talk about traumatic birth. Tune in to hear more!